Filter My Mirror

There are often times I find that the most amazing people lose themselves. They are great at making others feel great about themselves, about supporting others, and when it comes down to themselves they cannot do the same. They stare into that mirror and pick at every flaw, every imperfection. 

We've been conditioned to look at ourselves in comparison to an Instagram filter. I myself am guilty. I downloaded an app that "beautifies" you in one click.

So what exactly is one click beautification? This click, slims you down, makes your eyes larger, and blurs out any dimples, moles or so said "imperfection" off your face. Who decided this was the standard to be beautiful? Why must we obsess over IG models portrayal of life? Why must we obsess over taking the right angled picture and picking the correct filter? And when the camera is off... we can't love the image on the mirror, because there is no filter or beautify button. 

What will it take for us to appreciate that reflection? Because we are all beautiful. We all are unique, and we need to embrace our physical appearance. We don't need to diet, we don't need to obsess over how many calories go into our bodies, we can't think of working out as a punishment for going to happy hour with our friends, or enjoying a nice Thanksgiving dinner with out family. 

Learn to love yourself, if you want to change your physical appearance do something about it, but embrace that it is going to be a slow process. Don't starve yourself, don't limit yourself to life. If you're happy the way you are, then be you! Love it, flaunt it and don't look back... don't troll on the person who is doing something about it. 

I've often felt the need to compare my results to others. To cry and obsess over how skinny I could get, how many calories I could get away with eating without feeling dizzy... and when I did eat more than I should have, how to get it out of my body. It is taboo to talk about issues we struggle with. And slowly we lose ourselves as we try to smile at others and lift them up without lifting ourselves up. 

We don't want to be judged, we want to be seen as the girl with the perfect life, the perfect poses, the dazzling smile, the one who has friends around her all the time... everyone's envy. So I invite you to love yourself, to look beyond the mirror, and to forget about filters, to seek help if you need it, to lift yourself up, just as you would lift others up. Take a deep breath beautiful, stop trying to filter your mirror.